Emotional Regulation in Kids
Big emotions are a normal part of childhood. But for some kids, calming down after frustration, disappointment, or changes in routine can be especially difficult. This is where emotional regulation and co-regulation come in.
What is Emotional Regulation?
Emotional regulation is a child’s ability to recognize feelings and manage their reactions. This includes skills like calming down, coping with frustration, handling transitions, and expressing emotions in an appropriate way.
It’s important to remember: emotional regulation is a skill that develops over time—it isn’t something children are simply “born knowing.” In fact, the portion of the brain that regulates emotion and impulse control are not even fully formed yet. It will take years for it to develop.
What is Co-Regulation?
Co-regulation is when a trusted adult helps a child calm their body and emotions through connection and support. Children often need an adult’s calm presence before they can return to a regulated state.
In simple terms: kids learn to regulate by first being regulated with someone else.
Co-Regulation Strategies Parents Can Try
Here are a few simple ways to support your child in tough moments:
- Stay calm and speak slowly
- Use short, supportive phrases like “I’m here” or “You’re safe”
- Validate feelings (“That was really frustrating”)
- Offer a sensory break (deep pressure, movement, fidgets, quiet space)
- Practice breathing together
How TherapyWorks Can Help
At TherapyWorks, we support children in developing emotional regulation skills through strategies that match their unique needs. This may include sensory-based tools, coping routines, and building confidence through structured practice. Often times this aligns with occupational therapy goals.
If your child struggles with frequent meltdowns, transitions, or managing big emotions, our team is here to help.
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